Today I saw again how I’m good at just saying things are my fault and maybe it’s not a good thing BUT if it helps calm a situation then I seem to do it.
Co-parenting in our family is generally easy. However when both of my kids ask if they get a extra night with me because they’re staying at their dads tonight to celebrate Hanukkah with his family I’ve learned to say no. I’ve learned to explain it’s a special night and they will have special nights with me. I tried to make it work but it didn’t. This caused a boy to FaceTime me in tears and after talking to their father I told my son it was my fault, that I forgot cousins would be there and it’s a special night.
Growth…..it wasn’t my fault. It was a miscommunication brought on by me feeling bad about them wanting to be with me tonight. There’s times roles are reversed and the kids need to adapt to life.
So…going forward I will save a world of confusion and upset and I will explain that life has changes and that both parents value their time with them. I won’t complicate things. I enjoy calm and easy and today didn’t include that.
I’m grateful for the most part we agree on all things kids. I’m glad I can admit when I need to do things differently. I’m grateful for growth.