Well, I lost April 7, 2020 due to the epic migraine of the decade. My goodness. Nausea and all. It was brutal but today, with a migraine hangover I’m back.
A lot’s happened since my last doom and gloom post. I feel better about my relationship, I feel focused, and I know these times are uncertain, we are going through a pandemic.
So, little secret…I used to write and put all of me in my writing. I miss that. I’m starting on a article based on what was bugging me about my relationship. I think for some of us we have these thoughts about how our lives should pan out and if it detours then it can be a shock. However, I’m with a man who truly loves me for me and I need to look at why marriage was/is so important to me. I mean my ex husband gas-lighted me into a heart attack and then cyber stalked me into deleting my last blog and not feeling safe about posting anything online. I mean I also come from broken home so my examples of marriage aren’t good in the first place. I can’t wait to continue this journey and to look into the stigma of marriage. I mean research a little and you will see marriage didn’t start with love, it was a union to join families. More will be revealed.
I’ve also found that I’m way too hard on me even as we are all on lock-down. I need to remember not only am I an extrovert but the world is filled with us. There are a ton of us that need to be out there living life. Now, my outside life, work, school, etc. is all online. It takes more discipline to sit at my dining room table and do everything. It’s OK to get up and pace the house, it’s OK to take a walk (keeping social distance and wearing a mask) around the block, and it’s OK to have moments of not being OK.
Yesterday was lost to my head pain but today is a new day and I’m going to make the most of it. It’s also the first night of Passover so I will be joining my other half and his children and ex-wife for dinner. We’ve all been around each other so we are safe to dine together. Times are going to be much different for a while but it’s only temporary. Life does ebb and flow and each day is worth a new start…even in a time of Covid-19. Until tomorrow.
Did you know life and life’s ups and downs don’t stop because of a pandemic? True story. Yesterday and today I feel really sad. Letting go of what I thought would happen one day is hard. I cry when I think about it. Between that another situation I’ve said I’d let go I don’t know if my relationship will last for the long run. That’s being honest. Do I want to feel this when that person is someone I’m isolated with? No. The first letting go over time I can do but the second I’m not so sure. Time will tell and this sadness will pass. This is a total growth moment and ya know what? At least I’m forced to feel and work through it because I can’t run from my feelings by over doing it right now.
Yesterday I also took my final walk of the week with the boy. We took a walk each day he was with me. So nice to get out with no one else walking around and spend some time getting a bit of exercise in and the boy being able to scooter. Win/Win for us both. See some good too.
I notice lately I’ve been down more than up with my posts but come on, this isn’t a feel good time in history and this isn’t just hitting the United States. This is a worldwide pandemic and it’s sad. Just so sad. It will get better. That’s the silver lining.
My schedule for the week is ready, I’m focused on bettering me and it’s my alone week. I wonder the good that can happen. Let’s see. Until tomorrow.
My goodness, yesterday focused around the fact that I ate so poorly. Gluten is NEVER my friend but I couldn’t stop yesterday. I am still trying to figure it out. I really hated how it made me feel but I couldn’t stop. I feel so out of control internally right now. Like I don’t know which way is up. I know it’s day two of my monthly cycle but yesterday I just felt so powerless. Like anything and days before I do have a new day today. It’s the first time in my 44 years around the world that I thought “am I emotionally eating?”. I know I was lazy yesterday too. I made it into the office to switch out work but I fought to get my 5 hours in. Here’s to a new day…
I skipped my workout yesterday which means two today. I’m OK with that. One thing I noticed yesterday is that I’ve been keeping to my 5 days a week (ok really 5 workouts a week). I’ve been doing 5 workouts a week for 4 weeks now. That my friends is progress and even though I sucked on the food front yesterday I can say I am doing something good for me. I think, especially right now when being told to shelter in place that exercise is good for the soul. It’s at least keeping me going.
The boy skipped school yesterday, you know keeping in with my day. Ha! Seriously though, today he has a day of school to complete and tomorrow. Since I’m the teacher right now I gave him the day off. We also found out yesterday that the state of California is closing schools until the end of the school year (maybe this was my trigger for poor eating yesterday?). This overwhelmed this homeschooling mom because I, myself am a full time college student and I’m a employee as well. It’s hard enough trying to get the boy to stay focused but I have to arrange so much into my/our day. Today, not only is it packed with 4th grade fun but I also have school work to complete, a lot of it and 4-6 hours of work too.
Yesterday was hard and I’m not the only one having a hard time. My hope by blogging daily is to show others they are not alone. We are all struggling with this new normal. My silver lining for yesterday was my rent for April was paid. I’m grateful I was able to pay my rent when so many are not. I’m grateful I have my job still when so many are out of work. In this time of Covid-19 we need to remember the little things and even though I didn’t feel good about yesterday I did have some good. I did end the day watching Onward with my two kids. I ended my day surrounded by loved ones and I’m grateful we are all safe and I’m so sorry for all those who’ve lost people.