Johnny…For Fun & For Free

Johnny is a homeless man in South Los Angeles.

Let me start by saying when homeless people usually talk to me it’s for money.  Let me also say that I’ve been having a rough time since 2016.  So when Johnny told me Monday that I looked like a teacher, pretty & studious I was taken back because he didn’t ask for anything.  He just reminded me to smile and have a good day.

Today I met with Johnny again.  I talked to him and told him what he said about me made my day.  I introduced myself and treated him like we should all treat people with kindness and took the time to hear about him.

I’ll leave my story with Johnny there and go onto For Fun & For Free….

We all have highs and lows in our life.  I’ve always believed in the kindness of strangers and being there for people in general.  I’ve struggled with this since my marriage ended and my heart attack because I’ve felt so alone.  I’ve been reminded lately of the following:

None of us are alone…It’s easy for me to isolate or hide from those who may call me out on how poorly I treat myself.  I’m told I’m strong and have handled things with grace.  It wasn’t always this way.  I’ve learned to be kind to myself again.  It’s a process but when I allow people to care about me or when I’m there for others then I and others truly aren’t alone.

There’s lessons in life…I felt my life wasn’t good because well, I’m unemployed right now and feel that it’s my fault.  This isn’t true and I put too much of my self worth into what I did for a living.  Outside of the worries of money (who doesn’t have those) I have a beautiful life.  I’ve learned to relax more, I’ve learned to trust my gut, I keep learning.  I believe maybe sometimes things happen for a reason.  That maybe I’m to learn to be good to me because for years I wasn’t good to me.  I over did things, I over volunteered, I took care of people who could take care of themselves, etc.

I’ve grown, we all grow…It’s simply just that.  I’ve walked through so much uncomfortable this past year and I think it’s made me stronger.  I’ve learned to forgive, I’ve learned to trust the unknown, I’ve learned to have feelings and express them without fear of someone running away.

It was a friend and mentor who reminded me of some of this good.  Reminded me how much I didn’t take care of myself in the past.  I didn’t see that.  I saw that the more I was doing the more accomplished I was.  I was running myself down.  Since 2014 I’ve almost died and had a heart attack.  All due to not taking care of me and stressing too much about life.

My friend is my friend for fun and for free.  We need to be there for others in this way.  I do admit that I felt abandoned by some that I was there for and I thought why be there for others when no one is there for you when you need them.  Then I remembered it’s because it’s who I am.  I enjoy strangers and I enjoy people.  We NEVER know what another person is going through.  We never know if someone just had a horrible day and maybe our smile or hello helps.  I’ve tried and continue to try and do random acts of kindness where I tell no one what I’ve done because then it takes away from the good done (in my opinion).

Back to Johnny, I want to continue to have my talks with him.  His circumstances are much different than mine.  He hasn’t ask for anything just someone to talk to.  I know some people may find it odd that I talk to strangers but I believe and won’t stop believing a little kindness can go a long way.

I have grown a lot this past year.  I got through some big deals and I did do it with grace.  I’ve been scared to blog.  I feel I’m not where my blog was before 2014 but today after Johnny I felt the need to blog again.  I’m not sure if it makes any sense BUT I do know that if I just keep blogging my blog will be again what it was.  It was something I felt so good about and I want that again.  It was nice to want to do something that was so much a part of who I was.

I leave you with little ways to do a Random Act of Kindness….

  • Say hello to a stranger
  • Smile at a stranger
  • Buy the person behind you some coffee
  • Put money in a expiring parking meter
  • Leave a letter in a library book just telling someone to have a great day
  • Let someone go ahead of you in line
  • Write a chalk message on the sidewalk
  • Get creative
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Life’s Gifts

It’s no secret I’m known to do random things for strangers or give to causes. Now when I say give to causes I don’t mean tons but what I can. I do this because it makes me feel good and I don’t announce when I do it and I never brag. How is it known? Someone is usually with me when I give up something of mine for someone else. They too don’t brag or tell anyone.

1. I grew up not having much. I knew what it was to want what others had but still I see now I had enough. There are people who have nothing.

2. We should all do for others and not say a thing about it. It takes you out of yourself, makes someone feel good, and you in turn feel good.

I’m going through some life things right now. I’m really not me or even thinking right and I received a card from a friend yesterday and it was what was inside that got to me and at first I couldn’t accept it. All the time I do for others, especially right now and I didn’t want to accept someone doing something for me and it made me cry and it made me stop and be grateful that I have friends today who love me for me and see me going through a rough time and reach out just because.

I have to remember for someone so easy to give to others that at times it’s ok to be a receiver of a gift from the people life so graciously puts in it.

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Day 120 – My Favorite Surie Ever! – 37th Year Photo/Moi Challenge

My Surie

We met online in very early 2000. We were part of a Yahoo group for moms of babies due in September 2000. We instantly hit it off. One West Coast mom to be and one East Coast mom to be.

We had (Moi) a girl K and (Her) a boy A.

Needless to say I wasn’t in a good place emotionally so I ended up alienating myself from these women but not Surie. We kept in touch. It was like I knew her my whole life.

Fast forward 12 years and we still keep in touch. I love to send her postcards from Disneyland because of her love for Mickey. I love that we can email about anything and say what the other needs to hear. I just adore her.

I’ve grown up a lot in the past 12 years and I’ve finally over the past couple of years have bonded with a lot of those women from the group as well. There are more than 10 of us from the original group in a private group on Facebook now and it’s so nice sharing with each other. I met these women because of Surie as she invited me to the original group.

I hope to one day meet Surie. We should fly to the middle of the US and meet. That would be fun but until we meet we have the Internet and phone calls and cards through the mail.

I’ve found you can have a bond even when you don’t meet someone in “Real Life”

This is a screen capture of one of Surie’s favorite photos of herself. I think she looks great!!

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