My daughter is no perfect angel but she’s not a bad girl either. She’s the girl that will be friends with people who are mean to her to hope that they’ll be nice to her. Lets just start there, oh and she’s 11.
My daughter will “joke” innocently on fb about things and others will call her a B**ch and other things. Her weight was talked about last night as well.
Yes, she did have a Facebook account until this morning. I thought it would be an innocent adventure. She got the account to play Farmville with her grandmother and one friend but then she was on often.
I kept rationalizing and letting her know if she didn’t do certain things than she would be allowed Facebook time. I began to notice how evil and mean some girls can become on Facebook and the things they call one and other. THANK GOD my daughter isn’t one of them BUT she is the receiver of their jokes and meanness. Yet, they seem to not be so evil in person but I know that is changing too.
She’s had issues this year with being hit by a teacher, the teacher admitting it, and then her “friends” being mean to her because he’s not there (took a leave of absence). Really these are her friends?
She wants to leave the school next year and we are hoping she gets into this other school but will not know until June. I’m just done with these girls and yes, these issues can be anywhere and if this was the only thing happening I’d have her do as we have been and stand up for herself the right way. Add in the teacher hitting her and the “death threat” email due to the teacher we are done. We have showed her to stay the rest of the year to show they didn’t get the better of her but she doesn’t have to be there next year.
Girls can be so much nastier when it comes to being mean to one and other. I’ve just decided I can’t and will not monitor her Facebook account any longer and it’s got to go.
She’s going to be very mad at me for a while but I’ve decided I will give up Facebook too for a while. I may go on once a week because I have a mommy group on there from when she was born and family but no Status updates. No sharing. Now I do have Foursquare and Twitter and Instagram that feed over but responses, if any will be once a week. Technology sucks us in at times, technology I didn’t have at 11, and I want to show her I don’t need to be on either.
Having a Tween girl is hard work. I heard it would be and I’m glad she isn’t one of the girls being nasty but it saddens me that she’s one of the ones being bullied. I don’t think that as mothers when we hold our babies we are going to have the child that is bullied. I think that if she were in 5th grade right now that things may be better for her. She’s one of the youngest 6th graders and she’s still so very young emotionally and I think this is why these “friends” push her around. I’m so sad for her but need to show her how to be a strong young woman, without Facebook and without those who are just plain right mean to her. She deserves so much more!